i mentioned in the previous post that many are down in the dumps recently. yep. i did a bit of looking around blogs just now, and i realise, encouragements, are futile. no doubt, i wouldn't deny that i don't expect anyone to buck up with my "take care" or my "jia you! you can do it!", i'm aware actually that it probably does not have any weight. but, enlighten me please, what else?
when it comes to human relations, everything runs both ways. at least, from the way i see it, it does. for me, as long as it involves another person, then it means i'm susceptible to wrong interpretations- be it subject to situations, or to my mood.
my point is this: we can be gentle and we can be harsh in our expression of care. tried and true, the harsh way of dealing out care almost never works, so we all opt gentle. but, how gentle is gentle? or, how gentle is harsh? it's a hard thing to guage. of course, constructive comments and suggestions are always good, but if im not in your shoes or situations, i cannot judge, i cannot see. how then, will i know if what i say will further push any1 else into demise? the answer: i will never know. unless of course i know the person inside out. which, for me, takes years. that's why, most people stick with cliches; rather, that's y i do at least.
yes, it's because i don't know what else to say. but more importantly, it's because i want those around me to know that someone cares, without any hurt or pain. not really helping i know, in fact, when it gets repetitive, it gets on people's dendrites! [=D] i know it gets tiring, but, pls try to see things from the other end too. we too, are helpless. would you rather everybody leave you alone? like when i have nothing to say i'll just kp quiet? i duno, it sounds worse.[ if you think i don't understand at this point of time, thank you. that's exactly what im trying to say. i don't understand ur situation as well as you do. im predisposed to not make any comments in such situations.] =) right. please don't mistake this as a way of appearing to be concern when we cant be bothered to care btw. ya. please dont omg! =o!
bottom line, we care. forgive me, but, i don't think we deserve to be dissed for caring but not knowing how to express the care without the use of cliches.
yea. TADA. forgive me-
sk
when it comes to human relations, everything runs both ways. at least, from the way i see it, it does. for me, as long as it involves another person, then it means i'm susceptible to wrong interpretations- be it subject to situations, or to my mood.
my point is this: we can be gentle and we can be harsh in our expression of care. tried and true, the harsh way of dealing out care almost never works, so we all opt gentle. but, how gentle is gentle? or, how gentle is harsh? it's a hard thing to guage. of course, constructive comments and suggestions are always good, but if im not in your shoes or situations, i cannot judge, i cannot see. how then, will i know if what i say will further push any1 else into demise? the answer: i will never know. unless of course i know the person inside out. which, for me, takes years. that's why, most people stick with cliches; rather, that's y i do at least.
yes, it's because i don't know what else to say. but more importantly, it's because i want those around me to know that someone cares, without any hurt or pain. not really helping i know, in fact, when it gets repetitive, it gets on people's dendrites! [=D] i know it gets tiring, but, pls try to see things from the other end too. we too, are helpless. would you rather everybody leave you alone? like when i have nothing to say i'll just kp quiet? i duno, it sounds worse.[ if you think i don't understand at this point of time, thank you. that's exactly what im trying to say. i don't understand ur situation as well as you do. im predisposed to not make any comments in such situations.] =) right. please don't mistake this as a way of appearing to be concern when we cant be bothered to care btw. ya. please dont omg! =o!
bottom line, we care. forgive me, but, i don't think we deserve to be dissed for caring but not knowing how to express the care without the use of cliches.
yea. TADA. forgive me-
sk
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